This. Positive Self talk. So key.
What exactly is positive self talk?
Well, I always tell people to think of negative self talk. Everyone seems to understand that immediately! We all have that inner voice. And sometimes it can be real mean to us. It can tell us bad things about ourselves, cause us doubt, beat us down and hold us back. It is the bully in your brain. Now I am sure many can relate with negative thinking. I had years and years of negative self talk and It is not completely gone. This negative mind frame just plays over and over these messages we have received throughout our lives either from parents, teachers, friends, boyfriend ect. This narrative fuels depression, anxiety, low self esteem, fear, guilt and hopelessness.
But, I am much nicer to myself now and am pretty damn good at being positive and optimistic about life. So how did I change my negative self talk into positive self talk? Repetition! I would write down good things or positive affirmations about myself or say them out loud. I would do this everyday, preferably in the morning before I begin my day. At night before bed is also good though. Neuroplasticity is the brains ability to make new connections and neural pathways throughout life. This is like how if you keep practicing an instrument, eventually you will get good at it. It’s the practice that works. Practice writing positive affirmations everyday. It’s even better if you can really try to believe in what you are writing down. Eventually you will begin shifting your perspective, and your belief about yourself as well.
Another thing to practice is gratitude. All religions and spirituality teach this one great law. I am grateful to God everyday of my life for everything I have. Big, small, good, bad, old, new. Im thankful. Now whether you believe in God, or the universe or the power of just being thankful(and there is LOTS of research scientifically backing up the power of gratitude) make a daily gratitude list. Every night before bed, and you can do this alongside your affirmations, write down 5 things you are grateful for. Just 5. It can be big things or small things, but think of 5 things. It may seem silly at first, but over time it will help you to recognize the things you have to be grateful for, as well as attract MORE things to be grateful for.
Self awareness is huge in trying to switch to positive self talk. Being able to catch yourself saying bad things and correcting them, identifying behaviours related to negative mind frame, and tracking your moods and daily activities. I love to write and journal. It is my number one way to deal with feelings and emotions and just life. When I write, I can also look back the past few weeks and go over what I wrote. I can see where there are patterns in moods and activities, sleep schedule, how I am eating, everything. Becoming self aware of everything is so important, from the way you speak, to what you eat, to who you hang around with. Take a look at it all.
That’s what I am going to quickly add before I end. The people you hang around really do affect you. You do not want to be hanging around with people who treat you badly or get you to do things you don’t want to. Over time this will affect your self confidence and view of yourself. Having 1 or 2 quality friends who care about you and encourage you are much better than having lots of friends who bring you down, or only wants to hang out to get into trouble.